Our Focus

  • Addressing Parenting anxieties
  • Managing anger and frustration
  • Building better parent/child relationships
  • Coping strategies that work
  • Being proactive, not reactive
  • Effective P/P and P/C communication
  • Remaining in control in difficult situations
  • Maintaining consistency
  • Parenting values and beliefs
  • Building greater parenting confidence

Addressing parenting anxieties

Our high paced society is generating increasingly anxious, stressed out and overly worried parents. Part of that has to do with increased pressures at work, lack of adult time and of course, the kids. Like other mental and physical health problems, anxiety can be inherited. Some children are more vulnerable because of the way their anxious parents "parent." Children whose parents struggle with anxiety are more likely to develop an anxiety disorder themselves. That's partly a result of how parents view the world. If they see it as a scary place, their children often do as well. Parents are a child's role model for many behaviours, including anxiety. For example, if parent is showing anxiety by jumping up on a table when they see a mouse versus reacting calmly, we know children are more likely to develop fears similar to their parents.

Coping strategies that work

The way you deal with a situation says a lot about the person your child sees and how you would like to see them to grow up.  All parents strive to be the pillar of will power when times call for it.  Running a daycare has taught me a few ways to keep my cool and contain the kids at the same time. There are many different techniques that parents can develop which will help your coping techniques, and won’t believe how easy they are once you've mastered them.

Being proactive, not reactive

A little planning can go a long way.  You'll find that keeping organized will save you time, save you money and most importantly unwanted stress.  Running a daycare means you need to do what 6 hands can do with your two.  Meals, naps times, diaper changes and potty training can often pose a true challenge, but not if what you need is there for you.  The location of items can save you from stress.

Effective communication

Nobody likes to have orders barked at them, especially little ones.  It can be intimidating during times of frustration for kids to see and hear a parent raise their voice or demand something to be done and done quick! There are tons effective ways to communicate with kids, even when they are being unruly and you think there's no way they're going to do what you ask.  Saying the rights things the right way at the right time can make all the difference in the world. Communication between parents is a good first step as kids observe how parents interact.

Remaining in control in difficult situations

Control can sometimes seem like an impossible trait to perfect when handling kids. We make the mistake of asking our kids things like "I need you to stop hitting" and "I need you to put that down" to name a few examples.  The problem with this is we are now asking for validation from the child and this puts the control in their hands. It also means you become vulnerable. In a child's mind he or she doesn't "have to" stop hitting or put that down.  Control doesn’t have to be an illusion.  A simple request structured in the right manor can get what you need from your kids while remaining in control.

Maintaining consistency

At a young age, kids can get confused very easily.  The challenge here isn't figuring out what boundaries are appropriate to set, because as a grown adult, you already know right from wrong; what's appropriate and what's not. It's setting those boundaries consistently.  When you set them inconsistently you create not only a more difficult child, but also a more confused one.

Parenting values and beliefs

One of the most important things your child can do is to internalize the values they will live by. For moms, dads, and other parenting adults, this process can be both rewarding and terrifying. On the one hand, we see children expressing their honesty, compassion, and other positive values that we would hope to pass on to them. On the other hand, they often also do things that don’t reflect our values—or even that contradict our deeply held values.  Where do these behaviours come from?  There are plenty of sources like family, media and even other kids.  As a daycare provider of so many children over the years, I can often distinguish values that have a positive influence and build on those values.

Building better parenting confidence

As a parent, we all come to realize that this little bundle of joy didn't come with a manual. And even if they did, you will soon realize that it's of no real use. They are all so unique in their own way; and you - the parent - are the expert in that little one. No one knows your child quite like you do. It may have taken some time to get there. And along the way, you've asked lots of questions, read books, spent countless hours watching and listening. Eventually, you make your parenting decisions based on your own experiences and intuition. The goal is to be informed, to be involved, and to be confident. You will realize that children respond well to confidence, as it makes them feel more secure. Even if you have to fake it. We will help answer your questions, guide you to make the best decisions, and provide you with the tools you need to parent with confidence. And have fun doing it.